And the thing is — everything is changing: how we communicate with one another, how we think about ourselves, how we think about job prospects, how we even think about what constitutes success. And even good change is hard.

we often prefer the ease of hanging on to old views over the difficulty of grappling with new ones. Yet there are also deeper forces behind our resistance to rethinking. Questioning ourselves makes the world more unpredictable. It requires us to admit that the facts may have changed, that what was once right may now be wrong. Reconsidering... See more

Allostasis is also more accurate because the truth is you almost never get back to where you were — and when you try you often end up suffering. And while allostasis is becoming the predominant model for thinking about change in the research community, it hasn’t really been applied to laypeople with our everyday concerns. I think it should be,... See more