Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect

The funny thing is, most of us aren’t single because of how we look or what we weigh, our level of education or job description, or whether we asked the guy out first or waited three days to return his call. We’re single because we have this underlying belief that we need to be completely in synch with our mates, and if we’re not, we should find so

“You should look for a chemistry that’s a six or seven and a compatibility that’s a nine,”

stability, responsibility, compassion, groundedness, maturity, the desire for kids,”

If a guy has more subjective traits than objective traits, we rule him out. But if he has the objective traits, it’s harder to rule him out because objective traits are easier to measure, and we assume the harder-to-see-on-the-surface

Curtis’s book teaches couples how to create a vision statement for their

successful couple has approximately ten areas of ‘incompatibility’ or disagreement that they will never resolve.

knew that marriage involved failing health, aging, boredom, periods of stress and disconnection, annoying habits, issues with children, and hardships and misunderstandings of all sorts. But many women today seem to be looking for an idealized spiritual union instead of a realistic marital partnership.

And that’s because many people, I think, have an inability to believe that other people work differently. We don’t realize that you have to learn someone in the way that you learn a subject. You can’t do it only by feeling. You actually have to listen to them and believe them when they tell you how they work. That’s a very counterintuitive thing to

“There’s the way it was supposed to go, and the way it really goes,” he said. “You have to keep on challenging yourself. Your way of doing things so far has led you to where you are today. You have to go through a process to have the potential to meet someone you like. It’s up to you whether you choose to go through that process.”