Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect

So one of the things I tell young couples is that they need to be open to the fact that they will work differently from each other and from the families they grew up in, and that they have to respect that, and listen to that. In dating, people break up over these things and they miss the opportunity to really get to know the other person. They dism

Evan said the ditch looks like this: If there’s a ton of initial chemistry, it’s hard to develop a realistic picture of the person, and if the guy turns out to be unkind, or selfish, or unreliable, it’s hard to let go because you’re already hooked. But if you get involved with a guy who started out as a friend, as soon as you hit that inevitable ob

Marriage is about small acts of kindness that bond you over a lifetime. It’s quietly romantic. He makes her tea. She goes to the doctor appointment with him. They listen to each other’s daily trivia. They put up with each other’s quirks. They’re there for each other.

stability, responsibility, compassion, groundedness, maturity, the desire for kids,”

knew this person was the right person when we’d been dating for six months and she had to go away for a week, and when she was gone, I missed her so much. I thought that I felt happier when she was around. I realized how important she was.’

If a guy has more subjective traits than objective traits, we rule him out. But if he has the objective traits, it’s harder to rule him out because objective traits are easier to measure, and we assume the harder-to-see-on-the-surface

By the time you put one guy through a successful marriage and another through the mill of dating and failed relationships, they’re different kinds of guys. That’s what’s different about dating older people. They tend to be more jaded. They’re not as hopeful and appealing as younger single people tend to be.”

if you have everything you need in a relationship, but you’re just not feeling it anymore, maybe you’re focusing too much on whether you’re in love (the noun) and not making enough of an effort to love (the verb) your partner. There’s an aspect of love (the verb) that’s a choice. Vora feels that you need both the noun and verb, but, as he put it, w

Curtis’s book teaches couples how to create a vision statement for their