What I soon realized is that maintaining a firewall between my “mom” self and the rest of my self was making motherhood much less interesting. The rest of myself was being so challenged — psychologically, spiritually, philosophically, creatively and intellectually — by caring for my son. But I resisted it, and tried to keep care small because... See more

It really helps when the woman has some degree of self or identity developed beforehand—some level of her preparedness for having children. The other part that helps expand women’s identities in motherhood is a supportive environment. They should have people around them who are accepting of their struggles as they try to figure out who they are as... See more