Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.

To practice listening without offering any invalidating comments or solutions is, however, a big step.

When a man feels that a woman is not trying to improve him, he is much more likely to ask for her feedback and advice.

Setting limits and receiving are very scary for a woman. She is commonly afraid of needing too much and then being rejected, judged, or abandoned. Rejection, judgment, and abandonment are most painful because deep inside her unconscious she holds the incorrect belief that she is unworthy of receiving more. This belief was formed and reinforced in c

Given the opportunity to prove his potential, a man expresses his best self. Only when he feels he cannot succeed does he regress back to his old selfish ways.

Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed…. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.

He was amazed at how much happier his wife was when he finally learned to listen.

Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment.

Without knowing that women really do need to talk about problems to feel better, Tom would continue to think Mary talked too much and resist listening to her. Without knowing that Tom was reading the news to feel better, Mary would feel ignored and neglected. She would persist in trying to get him to talk when he didn’t want to.