Mastering the art of arguing productively
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Mastering the art of arguing productively
Too often people flail in their disagreements because they either don’t know or don’t think about how they should engage effectively; they just blurt out whatever they think and argue.
Ray Dalio • Principles: Life and Work
Grant offers the following four rules for productive disagreement:10 Frame it as a debate, rather than a conflict. Argue as if you’re right, but listen as if you’re wrong (and be willing to change your mind). Make the most respectful interpretation of the other person’s perspective. Acknowledge where you agree with your critics and what you’ve lear... See more
Jonathan Haidt • The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure
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When we argue about why, we run the risk of becoming emotionally attached to our positions and dismissive of the other side’s. We’re more likely to have a good fight if we argue about how. When social scientists asked people why they favor particular policies on taxes,40
Adam Grant • Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know
When we argue about why, we run the risk of becoming emotionally attached to our positions and dismissive of the other side’s. We’re more likely to have a good fight if we argue about how.
Adam Grant • Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know
MISCONCEPTION 1 Arguments Are Bad They’re not bad, but they can be unproductive. We aren’t taught how to argue productively.
Buster Benson • Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement
Argue like you’re right and listen like you’re wrong.”