Mastering the art of arguing productively
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Mastering the art of arguing productively
- Grant offers the following four rules for productive disagreement:10 Frame it as a debate, rather than a conflict. Argue as if you’re right, but listen as if you’re wrong (and be willing to change your mind). Make the most respectful interpretation of the other person’s perspective. Acknowledge where you agree with your critics and what you’ve lear... See more
from The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure by Jonathan Haidt
sari added
- Doing the work required to hold an opinion means you can argue against yourself better than others can. Only then can you say, “I can hold this view because I can’t find anyone else who can argue better against my view.”
The ability to destroy your ideas rapidly instead of slowly when the occasion is right is one of the most valuable things. You ha... See morefrom The Work Required to Have an Opinion by Shane Parrish
Marcel Mairhofer added
Experiments show that simply framing a dispute as a debate rather than as a disagreement signals that you’re receptive to considering dissenting opinions and changing your mind,39 which in turn motivates the other person to share more information with you.
from Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know by Adam Grant