Mastering the art of arguing productively
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Mastering the art of arguing productively
The true measure of leadership isn’t about winning every debate; it’s about ensuring that your perspective is heard and that it adds value to the conversation.
David Hoang • Making decisions happen
In thoughtful disagreement, your goal is not to convince the other party that you are right—it is to find out which view is true and decide what to do about it. In thoughtful disagreement, both parties are motivated by the genuine fear of missing important perspectives. Exchanges in which you really see what the other person is seeing and they real... See more
Ray Dalio • Principles: Life and Work
instead of seeing arguments as winner-take-all debates, approach them as collaborative learning experiences.
Kevin Dickinson • 3 brilliant critical thinking tools used by Daniel Dennett
For example, in the midst of a heated argument, when we are intent on attacking our opponent's position and defending our own, we may lose sight of the cooperative aspects of arguing. Someone who is arguing with you can be viewed as giving you his time, a valuable commodity, in an effort at mutual understanding. But when we are preoccupied with the
... See moreGeorge Lakoff • Metaphors We Live By
Too often people flail in their disagreements because they either don’t know or don’t think about how they should engage effectively; they just blurt out whatever they think and argue.