I decided not to go on this tangent, but in many ways, having children itself is making something heavy, and something that on its default course is enduring beyond yourself. Weight is not restricted to “work” in a traditional sense but to every arena of meaning.

George Orwell: All light things are light, but some light things are lighter than others. All heavy things are heavy, but some heavy things are heavier than others.

Make something heavy.

You don’t feel like a true creator because you haven’t made anything heavy, and deep down, you know light things don’t count.

When you’ve made something heavy—something that stands on its own—you don’t need validation. You just know, because you feel its weight in your hands .

You feel like an imposter when you only make light things.

Your life’s work will be heavy.

Pre–heavy thing people are still searching, experimenting, iterating. Post–heavy thing people have crossed the threshold. They’ve made something of substance—something that commands respect, inspires others, and becomes a foundation to build on. And it shows. They move with confidence and calm.

Heavy mode is slower, deliberate, and intentional (often hermit mode). It’s the mode of deep work that builds over time and carries lasting weight.