Make It Happen: Live your best life

Realise you have the power to let go of all those excuses, and seize back control of your life. Write down some of your favourite or most well-worn excuses on separate pieces of paper and then write on each why you don’t need it anymore. For instance, if one of them is that you don’t want to go to a gym because you think you’re too fat and you’ll l

It’s often more fun studying with a friend, so why not sign up for a course that might help you advance in your job, or have a different career,

What do you really want? And once you’ve worked that out, then you need to answer this: Are you being the best you can possibly be to achieve that?

If you want to change your life because you hate yourself, your habits, your body, your weight, your job, your lack of motivation, anything, it’s going to be an uphill battle, I can tell you that now. It’s always far harder to battle negativities than to forge positively forward. So if you reframe your ambitions in terms of wanting something better

Recognise that you’re basically a good person, and while you might make some mistakes, make sure you learn from them and choose to change your behaviour as a result. Make yourself even better.

‘How come someone else got what I wanted? How come I missed out? It’s not my fault!’ Or, ‘How come I’ve got this wedding to go to and I don’t have a thing to wear and I hate myself and I’ll look fat in all the photos and I’m going to go on a diet right now

To me, ‘no’ might just mean I haven’t asked the right question, or asked it at the right time, or in the right way.

What are you good at, and what would you like to be better at? What do you enjoy doing? The best and most successful journeys start from a place of love. Accept that you’ll never be perfect, but just strive to be the best version of yourself.

Why are you doing this? Why is this important to you? Have a deeper meaning, as this will help drive you. Be brave and don’t be afraid to back yourself, even if you are stretching your ability.