Magnificent Sex

8. Transcendence and Transformation For many, magnificent sex tends to involve experiences of transcendence.

5. Being Genuine, Authentic, Transparent Having the opportunity to be completely, genuinely and honestly themselves is, for many, the hallmark of a magnificent sexual experience. People described the freedom to be uninhibited and unselfconscious, sharing their private desires, interests or fantasies within a context of complete trust and acceptance.

One man said that he thought, “It’s a beautiful thing to be able to join physically with another body.” An older woman said, “For me, it’s very important because I want that much connection … intercourse itself is really important for me to feel bonded with my partner and to really feel like we are one, wonderful, sexy body.” Another man explained,

“What counts is the joining of minds and bodies at the right time. It’s a mind affair.”

this book will be descriptive rather than prescriptive. We will be describing what we

led to them. Their first lesson is that great lovers are made – not born. Very few people had magnificent sexual experiences early on,

In this section, we will review the role of these minor components: lust and attraction; physical pleasure and intensity; and sex acts, particularly, intercourse and orgasm.

Many said that feelings of attraction, desire and lust needed to be mutual, but others mentioned only the importance of feeling desired themselves. A male sex therapist believed that it was absolutely crucial for women to feel desired but that it was not as important for men.

Please note: We are certainly not trying to say that the eight components we discovered represent how everyone defines or experiences magnificent sex. On the contrary, these are the results we found from talking to particular groups of people, at particular times in their lives. Our intention is not to set these findings into stone or codify them i