Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

Happiness is a clear mind. A clear and sane mind knows how to live, how to work, what emails to send, what phone calls to make, and what to do to create what it wants without fear.

It is easy to be swept away by some overwhelming feeling, so it’s helpful to remember that any stressful feeling is like a compassionate alarm clock that says, “You’re caught in the dream.” Depression, pain, and fear are gifts that say, “Sweetheart, take a look at what you’re thinking right now. You’re living in a story that isn’t true for

In reality, there is no such thing as a “should” or a “shouldn’t.” These are only thoughts that we impose onto reality.

No teacher is necessary. You are the teacher you’ve been waiting for.

Now it’s time for you to apply the four questions and the turnarounds to the rest of your judgments, one at a time. Read all the sentences you have written on your Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet. Then, one by one, investigate each statement by asking yourself: 1. Is it true? 2. Can I absolutely know that it’s true? 3. How do I react, what happens, w

After I woke up to reality in 1986, people often referred to me as the woman who made friends with the wind.

I have never experienced a stressful feeling that wasn’t caused by attaching to an untrue thought.

“Perhaps the most important revelation is precisely this: that the left cerebral hemisphere of humans is prone to fabricating verbal narratives that do not necessarily accord with the truth.” And Michael Gazzaniga writes: “The left brain weaves its story in order to convince itself and you that it is in full control….What is so adaptive about havin

The first step in The Work is to identify the thoughts that are causing your stress and to write them down. These thoughts can be about any situation in your life, past, present, or future— about a person you dislike or worry about, a situation with someone who angers or frightens or saddens you, or someone you’re ambivalent or confused about. Writ