Love Life: How to raise your standards, find your person and live happily (no matter what)

But when we are happy enough, we have nothing to lose because we can look at our life today and recognize that it is already enough.

Be careful not to confuse a cycle of anxiety and temporary relief with chemistry.

it can feel intensely uncomfortable, and that instead of sitting in this discomfort, most people return to what is known, even if it makes them unhappy. Part of this discomfort is simply that it’s a new experience,

is a direct reflection of the identity they’ve constructed for themselves in their lives up until now.

we can act as if we chose them by figuring out what unique benefits they are giving

When we find that something new is possible, it takes courage to sit in the discomfort it creates.

Relying too much on our identity matrix for confidence leaves us vulnerable to shifts of fortune.

his unloving father and his own particular blend of circumstances and genetics. In fact, it had even started before he was born, beginning with the mix of influences that led his father to treat his own son with such indifference. At every stage, between his distant father and his manipulative boss, Randall did what he could with the tools he had.

We misinterpret our own experience, falsely believing that if we really had been worthy of more, we would have it already.