Love Life: How to raise your standards, find your person and live happily (no matter what)

is a direct reflection of the identity they’ve constructed for themselves in their lives up until now.

If the same happens to you in such circumstances and things like kindness and patience make you feel disoriented, give yourself grace. It’s normal. The poor treatment that was once so familiar may not have made us happy, but we were still used to it. That’s why it takes more than just wanting something new.

Warren Buffett says the most valuable thing he ever did for his future success was taking a public speaking program when he was twenty-one.

The more we are connected to the other grounding aspects of our life, the harder it is for someone who hasn’t texted us back for three hours to overthrow our equilibrium.

What our ego wants, and what our heart needs, are often two very different things.

“F-U confidence” comes from having that kind of sturdy support in your life already.

Note that the right time to do this is not when they’re in the middle of one of their cold periods—if they aren’t reaching out to you, then there’s no leverage. This is only effective in a situation where they pop up wanting something from you, when you do have leverage.

The pain we choose benefits us. The pain we stay a victim of hurts us.

If our confidence is dependent on everything going well, we’ll inevitably find ourselves in a fragile position somewhere along the line.