love is an allowing

Both people have to heal on their own so they feel at ease in themselves; then they can become a home for each other. Otherwise, all that we share in physical intimacy is our loneliness and suffering.

True love includes a sense of responsibility and accepting the other person as she is, with all her strengths and weaknesses. If you only like the best things in a person, that is not love. You have to accept her weaknesses and bring your patience, understanding, and energy to help her transform.

adventure: I come to understand that for most of my life, when I was looking for love, I was looking to be loved. In this, I am a prism of my world. I am a novice at love in all its fullness, a beginner. The intention to walk through the world practicing love across relationships and encounters feels like a great frontier.

A woman in her feminine self worth feels worthy enough to share all of her feelings vulnerably, because she knows her needs and feelings matter. It also means feeling worthy enough to not stay in any interaction or with any man if he doesn’t demonstrate that her feelings matter to him, and doesn’t demonstrate that he’s capable of cherishing those f

Feel into their heart without adding your own closure or self-protection. Breathe openly with their heart as if breathing with a lover. Perhaps speak from your openness to their openness. If appropriate, touch or tussle to help loosen their cringe around love’s open bloom. As uncomfortable as you may be, practice opening your body. Even if you are