Love bombing, gaslighting, and the problem with pathologising dating talk
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Love bombing, gaslighting, and the problem with pathologising dating talk
On one hand, there is an importance in gaining clarity when you name certain things. On the other hand, there is a danger that you lose all nuance, that you’re basically trying to elevate your personal comments and personal experience by invoking the higher authority of psychobabble
Delia Cai • Esther Perel Thinks All This Amateur Therapy-Speak Is Just Making Us Lonelier
The so-called ‘HR-ification’ of interpersonal relations – an appropriate term, given the particularly capitalist bent of its aetiology – involves Insta-therapists encouraging the use of social scripts full of meaningless jargon, such as the much maligned template above, to ‘protect your peace’ and ‘assert your boundaries’ against those aforemention... See more
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The epidemic of constant communication
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Looking for love sounds more like chasing the high of an extreme sport, trust falling with someone you don’t really know like that. It demands exacting reciprocity, extreme vulnerability. It brings out people’s basest and most primal instincts and a frightening desire to merge into someone else. When the girlies on TikTok talk about dating, they ra... See more
Nobody Has A Personality Anymore
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