Looking for Alice

The type of person I’m assuming we’re looking for here is 1) someone that you will find fascinating to talk to after you’ve talked for 20,000 hours, 2) you feel comfortable with them talking through the hardest and most painful decisions you will face in your life, and 3) the conversation is wildly generative for both of you, in that it brings you ... See more

There is a trope in romance that when you meet the person you are supposed to be with, you can talk about anything. You can apparently inverse that too: if you talk about anything that pops into your mind, you can tell if you're supposed to be with the person by judging their reaction.

What they actually want to know is how to bring a feminine partner into their world who will want to reveal all of herself, who won’t hold back, who will offer the range of Feminine experience—her fierce feedback, her darkest fantasies, her most tender fears, and her unwavering devotion. How can they attract someone like that? Someone to bring them

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