Living Beyond Your Feelings: Controlling Emotions So They Don't Control You

Why do we feel the way we feel? Perhaps it is because we talk the way we talk!

Dave is mainly phlegmatic. He is more easygoing and not emotional at all. He is very logical, which is not only a trait of his personality type, but a trait that is inherent in most men. Dave is very patient and can wait forever for things to happen. He never worries; he is never tormented by guilt. There are a few things in life, like his golf and

The Bible teaches us to always believe the best of every person (see 1 Cor. 13:7). If we let our thoughts lead us, they usually tend toward negativity. Sadly, the flesh without the influence of the Holy Spirit is dark and negative. We learn in God’s Word that we have a mind of the flesh and a mind of the Spirit (see Rom. 8:5). If we let the mind of

The interesting thing is that if the thought is a good one, based on something positive, that it actually looks different in the brain than a negative thought does. The toxic thought, as I refer to them, will affect your entire body. They form a different type of chemical than a positive thought does. The toxic thought causes little thorns to grow

that from God. (Philippians 1:28)

God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

the Lord, because He has dealt bountifully with me. (Psalm 13:1–6)

Man’s steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way? (Proverbs 20:24)

We usually give our spouses the responsibility of making us happy rather than living to make them happy. In the process, neither one ends up happy. But you can change that! If you want your marriage or any other relationship to improve, just start doing more of the right thing yourself.