We can mourn because we didn’t even realize that we gave something up. The shape of a life can feel like a past tense;

sweaty concept is one that comes out of a description of a body that is not at home in the world.

Feminists are then judged as being unable to help themselves, as if to be a feminist is to function on automatic pilot.

We might think we have made that step only to realize we have to make it again.

It is important, however, that we not reduce willfulness to againstness. There is a family of words around willfulness (stubborn, obstinate, defiant, rude, reckless), which creates a structure of resemblance (we feel we know what she is like). This familialism also explains how easily willfulness is confused with, and reduced to, individualism.

feminism is understood as a problem of will: a way of going one’s own way, a way of going the wrong way.

up new worlds.

this is how being willing can be a consequence of force; you become willing to avoid being forced.

If sensation brings us to feminism, to become a feminist is to cause a sensation.