Pick one of these activities, try it out, and then write about it in your Possibilities Journal: Go to a local newsstand and intentionally buy and read a handful of magazines you’ve never read before—and that previously never appealed to you. If you like science magazines, buy a publication with short stories. If sports is your regular read, take

But there’s everything to be gained by taking a hard look at all this stuff. And to ask yourself this repacking question: what are the essentials for the next phase of my journey? Am I just filling my life with stuff? Or am I going after the fulfilling stuff of life?

It’s okay not to know exactly what you want to do next—or to want to do too many things at the same time. It’s okay not to have the one right answer—or to try many different answers to see which feels most right. It’s okay to end up in places you didn’t expect to get to—or to change your mind about the place you always thought you would want to go.

In your Possibilities Journal, write down names of people who meet these criteria: Do they care about me? Are they less interested in judging me and more interested in supporting me? Am I comfortable being transparent with them? Am I open to having courageous conversations with them? Are they committed listeners? Do they ask great questions? Do

Here’s an easy way to begin your Possibilities Journal by starting where you are. On the first page, write down your name. Write down the date. Write down your location. It can be where you’re sitting, or it can be where you’re living. But locate yourself for yourself. Write down something about what you’re doing. How do you spend your time now?

Start Where You Are

convene imaginary meetings and have imaginary conversations.

You have inner kill when you’ve stopped growing, when you’ve given up on yourself, or when you find yourself always taking the easy, safe way. Like most conditions, inner kill has a set of recognizable symptoms that let you diagnose it in yourself or someone you know: a tendency to avoid decisions; a tendency to daydream about early retirement;

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