Learn to love the Moat of Low Status

Fear of being temporarily low in social status stops human beings from living richer lives to an unbelievable degree.

Okay, but really, short of traumatizing yourself, how can you learn to thrive in the Moat, so you can experience the glorious upside?

The true secret is that getting over it means resolving yourself to not really getting over it. Unless you are truly emotionally strange, being in the Moat will hurt somewhat. You will feel embarrassed. There’s not a ... See more

When you step into the Moat of Low Status, you also step away from the grinding of normalcy. On your first day of dance class, you don’t know how to move your body. Isn’t that exciting? You don’t know how to move your body. This thing you’ve been lugging around is now a whole new vehicle — it might move like a frenzied wolverine, or an indifferent ... See more

Here are some tactics that I find useful when I’m deep in the Moat:

Attempt the basic move of mindfulness meditation: get curious about the tingling feeling of embarrassment in the body, rather than your mental stories about it or reactions to it. See if you can welcome it. Curiosity inverts resistance.

Remind yourself that embarrassment is simply th

... See more