It is not a sin to be tempted. Jesus was tempted, yet he never sinned.9 Temptation only becomes a sin when you give in to it. Martin Luther said, “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.” You can’t keep the Devil from suggesting thoughts, but you can choose not to dwell or act on

At the heart of “worldliness” is who you love and who you trust to meet the deepest needs of your life. When I look at it that way, I get less preoccupied with some of the external arguments about what’s acceptable or not acceptable and a lot more focused on my love relationship with Jesus. Where are you at? How are you doing? Has the world system

Sexual continence—chastity—outside of celibacy looks like a relationship to sex that doesn’t idolize it, doesn’t let it define us, doesn’t let it become a hunger that eats us alive. In other words, the gift of chastity is that it trains us not to need; it grants us an integrity and independence and agency in the face of various drives and hungers.