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Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?
Women were rewarded for their ability to find and keep a man, with elevated social status and praise. It became even more suffocating when this could be leveraged on social media for engagement and, if you were serious enough, financial gain.
Chanté Joseph • Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?
And maybe that’s why so many of us are now allergic to saying “I have a boyfriend” out loud. We want to distance ourselves from that archetype as much as possible. The one who made a man her personality. The one who lost her plot. So we hide our relationships not just from others, but from the fear of becoming her.
maisa • "is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?" yes, and that’s why we’re hiding them
For the pursuit of romance to carry any shame is especially odd in 2025…Instead of just acknowledging that totally commonplace aspiration, though, we romanticize serendipity: People hope that love will fall into their lap so they never need to debase themselves by seeking it…The culture tells us…We should have a partner, but we shouldn’t want one.