Intimacy, Emotional Baggage, Relationship Longevity, and More – Esther Perel on The Tim Ferriss Show

How do you reduce arguments in your marriage?-“Arguing in a relationship often has little to do with the content of the argument itself” -It’s all about the art of speaking and listening

What are the essential blocks to building a strong foundation between partners and establishing balance for longevity?-Not everything must be said-The combination of empathy and responsibility is very important-Be able to see things from your partners point of view, while also being able to take responsibility for things-The ability to navigate sep... See more

-Engage with new experiences  

“The most powerful antidepressant is doing for other people”

If you want to give advice, ask if she wants to hear it

-Don’t sweat the small things-“Behind every criticism is often a wish”-Ask, don’t complain

How do you foster marriage longevity?-You must show appreciation, don’t take things for granted-Give compliments, and do nice things for each other-Esther is a fan of writing letters to each other, both at home and while she’s on the road-Encourage each other to be the best versions of yourselves

-Stonewalling is the silent treatment, or being withdrawn-Don’t use words like “always” and “never” – this just opens up the argument to -places it doesn’t need to go-Use humor to diffuse arguments-Show empathy – you have to understand your partners point of view-Shift your thinking around, think about what you can do to make things better instead ... See more

Say “tell me more” in conversation