Insecurity Screams, Confidence Whispers
The Loudest Alarm is Probably False
A curious thing I've noticed: among the friends whose inner monologues I get to hear, the most self-sacrificing ones are frequently worried they are being too selfish, the loudest ones are constantly afraid they are not being heard, the most introverted ones are regularly terrified that they're claiming more than
... See moreI know that it’s easy to observe when people are feeling insecure. Notice how much they are mentioning their positive attributes, material possessions, or important friends, when there’s no conversational reason for this to be occurring other than a status claim. It is harder to spot yourself doing this, but it is worth the effort — you are likely... See more
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
- You can tell when someone is quietly confident. When they have a concise sense of their own identity — they don’t need to overcompensate or speak loudly about their successes or wealth or intensity