Having agency doesn’t mean it’s your fault if you’re in a bad situation. It just means you have the ability to recognize what it’s costing you and work toward something that is your yes.

We need a vision of community that is relevant and future-facing.

keenly aware of the absence of the world we’d made.

I struggle with the cultural push toward insularity and self-reliance. I suffer from the inertia of screens and the ennui of stuff. I indulge in the brief hit of dopamine comfort that comes from online shopping (the kitchen gadgets, the houseplants, the skincare products). I drink wine to unwind. I sip from the warm cup of promised safety and comfo

Our individuality is entwined with our connectedness; so the work of healing and growth happens both alone and in relation to others.

This is what it looks like to ask for and offer help, to build relationships that can hold us accountable to ourselves, to open up to knowing others and letting ourselves be known.

Amoretta Morris, a wise woman I know who is rethinking philanthropy, wrote, “It’s okay to ask for help. In fact, by doing so, you are taking part in the divine circle of giving and receiving. While we often focus on what the request means for the asker/recipient, we should remember that giving can be transformative for the helper.… By not asking fo

Creating relationships and connection outside the arrangements that our current culture presents to us can be exciting and liberating. We get to be creative, coming up with new ways to understand our connections to others and new ways of connecting. We get to throw out what we’ve learned to want and discover what we actually want and need. We get t

This new attention helps me see a little more into her experience, and while I will never fully see it or understand what it’s like, I can work to keep that window open more often and make it bigger.