How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

A 2018 survey from Cigna found that a quarter of us don’t have people in our lives who we feel understand us.2 Only half of us have daily meaningful interactions with others. “At least two in five surveyed sometimes or always feel as though they lack companionship (43%), that their relationships are not meaningful (43%), that they are isolated from

This is what it looks like to ask for and offer help, to build relationships that can hold us accountable to ourselves, to open up to knowing others and letting ourselves be known.

Family holds a place of honor in the American Dream—a “good family” has some of the status of a successful career, but with the…

Some highlights have been hidden or truncated due to export limits.

This is a process of decolonization. Whether you are the descendants of colonizers or the colonized—or, like me, both—all of our peoples have experienced the loss of something essential to our liberated well-being. Whether that was taken from you or given away in the bargain to win power, it is loss.

Having agency doesn’t mean it’s your fault if you’re in a bad situation. It just means you have the ability to recognize what it’s costing you and work toward something that is your yes.

We need a vision of community that is relevant and future-facing.

This new attention helps me see a little more into her experience, and while I will never fully see it or understand what it’s like, I can work to keep that window open more often and make it bigger.

While the American Dream has never been an option for most members of some communities—queer folks, unmarried adults, Black folks, people who grow up poor, just to name a few—it’s also overpromised on the satisfaction, contentment, and happiness it delivers to people who do get their piece of it. The people winning at the American Dream are some di

Women have been circling formally and informally probably forever. Around fires, in covens, red tents, church basements, and kitchens,