How to Unf*ck Your Life

These are the 4 “phases” to expect as you move from one stage to another:

• Alpha – Life is good and normal. There is order.

• Beta – Doubts arise as you enter a new phase. Doing the same thing only makes it worse.

• Gamma – You feel lost. Things are chaotic and turbulent. This is where you can get trapped and feel like there’s nowhere to go.

• Delta –

Ken Wilber’s Wake up, Clean up, Grow up framework for human development.

Wake up meaning becoming aware of your true nature beyond the ego—accessing states of consciousness beyond ordinary waking awareness.

Clean up meaning psychological healing through shadow work—addressing unconscious or repressed aspects of yourself that are causing unnecessary

aperspectival madness occurs when individuals or societies recognize the validity of multiple perspectives (which is good), but then fall into a relativistic trap where they cannot or will not integrate these perspectives or make value judgments between them (which is problematic).

Your values—beliefs, standards, points of reference, or other elements of identity—shape what is important to you and what is worth noticing.

Change must be possible if you want to reach the next stage.

You need either the skill acquisition, resources, or environment that allows you to see the potential for change.

This corresponds to the concept of “horizontal development” in Susanne Greuter’s ego development theory.

In order to move up vertically (to new stages) one must acquire a suffici

Your life feels terrible because your mind is filled with beliefs that interpret it as terrible.

But here’s the truth that psychology points to:

You’re in the perfect position to change your life.

that human value systems or worldviews (which influence how we interpret the world and make decisions… in other words, our operating system for reality) evolves through stages in an upward spiral.

These stages are the structure of how we think.

Each of us as individuals move up the spiral as we age and develop ourselves.

But this doesn’t only apply to

Once you are stretched between two opposite poles (your old way of life and the new approach you want to take), you will encounter obstacles on the path.

If you are an aspiring writer, you may fall into the trap of perfectionism.

You start projects and then quit because they are never good enough.

With this specific obstacle, you would need to reframe

The self.

The strange loop of us thinking about our own consciousness in relation to others.