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How to talk to boys so they grow into better men
- Like girls, boys openly express their desire for genuine connections with others, including with boys. They reveal the human capacity for mutual understanding, care, and empathy and demonstrate remarkably astute abilities to read the human world. Yet as they reach middle to late adolescence and as expectations of manhood intensify, they begin to ex... See more
Jason Shen and added
- Jonathan Haidt is right when he talks about the sudden switch from play-based to phone-based childhoods and how it destroyed mental health—particularly for young girls. Our childhoods weren’t spent toying with risk and danger, teaching ourselves we could cope with it, learning that it’s baked into life. We had bans on play fighting. Health and safe... See more
from Risk-Aversion Is Killing Romance - By Freya India - GIRLS by freyaindia.co.uk
Agalia Tan added
And that value kicks in early. Toddlers whose dads encouraged exploring (while setting limits) had better social and emotional skills twelve to eighteen months later.17
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
Philip Soriano added
But here's the real problem. We dismantled masculinity and didn't leave a blueprint to build the new digs. Or, to put a finer point on this debate, therapist Jonathan Decker posited that "limiting masculinity," not toxic masculinity, is to blame for this mess. In other words, how we define masculinity is too narrow.
from A Researcher Studied The Most Common Last Words Of Suicidal Men by Carlyn Beccia
Jonathan Simcoe added
They also taught me that often kids who act out are angry and hurting, so it was important to feel compassion for them too. They told me to tell bullies the truth and remind them that they could, and should, be better—that they were responsible for their choices. And they told me to seek the help of an authority figure rather than angrily mete out
... See morefrom What Is a Girl Worth?: My Story of Breaking the Silence and Exposing the Truth about Larry Nassar and USA Gymnastics by Rachael Denhollander
Jonathan Simcoe added
- men who live in an academic milieu tend to be unaware of the pre-occupations of ordinary men and women; moreover, their ways of expressing themselves are usually such as to rob their opinions of the influence that they ought to have upon the general public.
from In Praise of Idleness by Jordan Castro
Andrew McCluskey added
no point in having a game changing construct if you can’t communicate it effectively
How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 (The How To Talk Series)
by Julie King
We have seen that the amount of time a father spends with a child is “one of the strongest predictors of empathy in adulthood.”6 Teaching a child to treat boundaries seriously teaches him or her to respect the needs of others.
from The Boy Crisis by John Gray PhD
Philip Soriano added