How to Raise an Adult — Julie Lythcott-Haims

Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent. —Carl Jung

If you’re overfocused on your kid, you’re quite likely underfocusing on your own passion. Despite what you may think, your kid is not your passion. If you treat them as if they are, you’re placing them in the very untenable and unhealthy role of trying to bring fulfillment to your life. Support your kid’s interests, yes. Be proud—very proud—of them... See more

Why did parenting change from preparing our kids for life to protecting them from life, which means they’re not prepared to live life on their own?

When children aren’t given the space to struggle through things on their own, they don’t learn to problem solve very well. They don’t learn to be confident in their own abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem. The other problem with never having to struggle is that you never experience failure and can develop an overwhelming fear of failure ... See more

Not only does overparenting hurt our children; it harms us, too. Parents today are scared, not to mention exhausted, anxious, and depressed.

Resilience is built from real hardship and cannot be bought or manufactured