How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

Most of us have no idea what kind of partner will fulfill us long term.

Go on dates with people whom you don’t necessarily think are a fit. That’s the only way you can figure out what you actually like rather than assuming you already know.

Satisficers report feeling happier with their choices, even when they select an objectively worse option.

Now it’s your turn. To determine your dating window, count the number of years from when you started dating to when you’d like to enter a long-term relationship. Now, what’s 37 percent of that number? Add that to the age when you started dating. That’s your 37 percent mark.

relationshopping”— searching for our mate like we’d search for a new pair of shoes. But treating potential partners like potential purchases gets us into trouble.

Apps primarily give us a list of résumé traits and nothing more. Only by spending time with someone can you appreciate that person for the “experiential good” they are.

This works for dating, too. When you commit to someone, your brain will do its best to convince you it was a good decision. Satisficers inherently understand this idea—and benefit from it.

just learned, the more a quality can be compared, the more important that trait seems.

“Maximizers make good decisions and end up feeling bad about them. Satisficers make good decisions and end up feeling good.”