How to make your anger work for you
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updated 4mo ago
updated 4mo ago
Anger is transformative, and it is often the peak state we reach before we truly change our lives. This is because anger is not intended to be projected onto someone else; rather, it’s an influx of motivation that helps us change what we need to change within our lives. When we do not see it as such, we tend to bury it, not ever resolving the real
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@Lumi added
The real concern isn’t whether or not to express our “negative” feelings but how we choose to express them. Repressed anger is implicated in various illnesses (weakening the immune system), but so too is over-expressed anger (think hostility).
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Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more destructive than the injury that provoked it. Seneca on Anger Management in Relationships
ian ross added
“Anger is a hot coal you hold in your hand while waiting to throw it at somebody.”
Research shows that the best way to deal with negativity is to observe it, without reaction and without judgment. Then consciously label each negative feeling and replace it with positive, compassionate, and solution-based thoughts.
Steven Kempton added
“Anger is a hot coal you hold in your hand while waiting to throw it at somebody.”