How to Keep House While Drowning: A gentle approach to cleaning and organising

success depends not on having strong willpower, but in developing mental and emotional tools to help you experience the world differently.

If you tend to avoid care tasks because they are boring, choose something you can enjoy during the task: a Netflix show, a podcast, an audiobook, et cetera.

We all have seasons of life when we are capable of contributing more or less than the people around us.

occasionally mess means I’m struggling with depression or stress. But those aren’t moral failings either—and neither is that moldy coffee cup I keep not taking to the kitchen.

Environmentalism is important. But we are not going to fix the earth by shaming people with mental health and neurodiverse needs out of adaptive routines they need to function.

you don’t exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.

Leaning into the things we feel naturally motivated to do creates momentum.

This is not a journey of worthiness but a journey of care. A journey of learning how we can care for ourselves when we feel like we are drowning.

When you view care tasks as moral, the motivation for completing them is often shame. When everything is in place, you don’t feel like a failure; when it’s messy or untidy, you do.