When a person is stuck in trying to make a difficult decision, what is the underlying message in the common advice to “sleep on it”? Surely no one believes that the mere passage of time is going to alter the factors in the situation. I would suggest that there is an awareness that the individual is in the grip of a particular subpersonality, and

finally sat down and meditated for 35 minutes. Afterwards, I was less chained to my suffering, and went on with my day with a bit more freedom and gratitude. I feel a little more willing to sit today, which is a tremendous gift.

Sympathy will break your heart; compassion will break your heart open.

CHAPTER SIX LISTEN: Tuning in to Self-Talk

living? I have always filed that remarkable circumstance under “Blessings abound.”

Letting go is not the same as getting rid of. Letting go is allowing what is to simply be, without clinging or pushing away.

In the first case, we are identified with fear, loss, deprivation, a feeling/belief that there is something wrong, resistance, urgency, defensiveness, isolation, loneliness, judgment of others, self-judgment, beliefs and opinions, being right, criticism of others, self-criticism, punishment, worry, anxiety, greed, delusion, insecurity, superiority,

Humiliation is an experience that only egocentricity has, and from my perspective, it is the only thing that really needs the experience. It is extraordinarily important to understand that egocentricity is not capable of the brilliant clarity that is there when the illusion of a separate self is not.

An Issue to Work With Let’s begin by selecting something you want to change in your life.