So, here’s what needs to be done if we want to increase our chances of being heard by someone on an opposing side. According to Sharot, if you want to keep someone’s brain lit up and receptive to your point of view, you must not start your response with a statement of disagreement.

Avoid personal attacks; stick to the issues. Emphasize points of agreement as a foundation for discussion of points of argument. Employ a “rephrasing” style of communication to be sure you understand each other. (“Let me see if I understand you correctly. Do you mean… ?”)

how to facilitate constructive discussions among people who disagree.