Here's how you will feel better

Holding on to old resentments, habits and situations is just like being dragged along by a powerboat. You might think it’s your boyfriend, your mother, your company, your childhood, your friends or your circumstances that are creating whatever state you’re stuck in. But you have more power than you realize, or maybe than you’re willing to admit.

Caught in the trance of unworthiness, our desires fixate on soothing, once and for all, our anxiety about imperfection. We strive to tie up all the loose ends and to avoid making mistakes, even though we know both are impossible. We want to feel “good enough” all the time in our work, parenting, relationships, health, appearance, and life. We want

The fearful ego tells us that by holding on to old resentments we protect ourselves from getting hurt again, or “falling.” The irony is that the release is in the fall.