Very quickly, “healing” became less about connection and more about control. Less about understanding ourselves, and more about explaining ourselves; justifying every boundary, every reaction, every ~vibe shift~ with a diagnosis. We’ve developed this not-so-subtle kind of smugness — often cruel and alienating — where if someone doesn’t speak our... See more

Human beings aren’t meant to be optimized. We are meant to be in relationship. In conflict. In care. In community. And community, here, doesn’t mean constant harmony. Because, ew, that’s not real life, nor should it be. Community comes with burden, it comes with inconvenience, it comes with conflict. But somehow, we’ve deluded ourselves into... See more