Happiness Junkie: A 12 Step Program to Find Inner Peace and Change Your Life

I wasn’t choosing not to let go of the past—the past would not let go of me.

habits: when they emerge, our brains stop fully participating in decision making. Habits are shortcuts that allow us to do things unconsciously, freeing up our conscious minds to do other things.

First we make our habits, then our habits make us.

being unaware of our subconscious programming can cause problems.

Habit rules the unreflecting herd. — William Wordsworth

Shame lives in the darkest corners of our psyche. It resists healing, mostly because we work overtime to keep it hidden. “Shame is the most private of emotions, and humans have yet to evolve a facial expression that clearly communicates

The shame-bound get imprinted with these messages, like a recorded endless loop, a lowlight reel, operating in the background of their lives, creating in them the habit of feeling uneasy about their worth and unsure of our abilities.

The difference between shame and guilt is the difference between ‘I am bad’ and ‘I did something bad.’ — Brené Brown

Shaming operates by giving children a negative image about their selves—rather than about the impact of their behavior.” — Good Children—at What Price? The Secret Cost of Shame,