“Desire that arises in agitation is an expression of the ego; desire that arises in stillness is an expression of the soul.”

When I’m feeling confident, my taste is more reliable, grounded, and steady, and I’m able to shop slowly and with more patience. In the end, what I buy may contribute to my confidence, but only because it was already there, developed over time and, importantly, through other means.

The Instagram Reels about how to dress for your body type and the endless online shopping are junk food for your anxious mind to chew on—they work because they feel immediately satisfying but are unsustaining in the long-run. You can chase those little highs forever, build a closet packed with technically flattering and stylish clothes and still be... See more

Years may pass before you feel like you’re onto something, and this process will likely involve plugging your ears to the siren song of trends until you realize you actually have the same sensibility you had as a kid, it’s just grown up now. I like the word sensibility, I’ve started using it instead of taste when I’m trying to tap into something de... See more