Functional Freeze.

The only way we can guarantee that we can bring out the best in us - and be the best, safe, approachable resource for them - is if we are grounded.

Becoming conscious and aware of what we have been doing unconsciously for years is growth, and always worth celebrating!

He felt her pressure. Already the pressure in his body was growing. He was starting to feel his stomach tighten and the heat come into his cheeks.

I am open to building a bond with others

One, however, registered grounded. Calm, body position never threatened. Gentle, sing-song voice, with a slightly higher pitch when speaking to her. Words that indicated she understood. Genuine smiles. When their eyes met (and they did), it was safe.

Approachable. We want children to know they can come to us when things are hard. We

they don’t meet the simple and appropriate criteria of making you feel safe, heard, respected and understood, or if anything feels ‘off’ to you, then just be grateful you didn’t go any further down the line with them and move on.

The nerve endings in our fingertips are able to send a message to activate the release of serotonin. This is a feel-good hormone, which is why stroking a soft blanket, a furry animal or other calming textures can help us feel calmer.