Grounded

One, however, registered grounded. Calm, body position never threatened. Gentle, sing-song voice, with a slightly higher pitch when speaking to her. Words that indicated she understood. Genuine smiles. When their eyes met (and they did), it was safe.

My body is pumping with adrenaline - and noradrenaline and cortisol too, if I stay like this a long time

set-up more quickly, along with improved digestion and relaxed facial muscles.

Children learn that getting angry doesn’t have to end in hurting people with hands, feet or words. They learn that feeling scared can be overcome and doesn’t have to mean we stop moving forwards, trying things, doing things.

we need to understand that our face is the purveyor of multiple meanings.

Fight: I become argumentative I am aggressive I speak loudly

The role an adult’s stress level plays - or, more precisely, the impact on a child of the amount of activation in the adult’s nervous system - is very rarely understood or appreciated.

have had the privilege of helping many parents discover their own story as a major piece in the puzzle of their child’s behaviour.

what’s going on in the vicinity around them; the way they are communicated with; their own internal enviroment; and the ‘state’ of the person they are with.