Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction

Comforting your inner child can be a challenge because he has two objectives: seek pleasure and avoid pain. And neither of those goals is something a man struggling with sex or pornography addiction should be aiming to accomplish.

Feelings were never discussed in this home, and if any were presented, they were quickly shut down or dismissed.

”Our brain stays in a state of hypervigilance because the deep brain continues to feel the need to protect itself from perceived danger. It’s as if our mind doesn’t ‘know’ the danger has passed, so it continues on high alert, in an anxious state, always concerned that something bad is going to happen. Somebody inside continues to live and relive th

Since they cannot seem to escape criticism in their life, they turn to fantasy to create a world where they are always affirmed.

A vital component of a man’s sexual recovery is to learn techniques to assist him in reducing the anxiety he experiences when emotions arise so he can remain engaged instead of simply being present.

Whenever we act out, it is correlated to a core emotional trigger that occurred.

Then one day these young boys experience a great awakening. They stumble upon sex. This leads them to be exposed to a level of stimulation to the likes they had never felt before. They find sex captivating and exhilarating.

Then, a false self must be set up.”

Instead, they use sex as a self-soothing tool that produces an adrenaline rush powerful enough to block out troubling emotional distresses.