more and more practiced at saying “I see you” when they share their innermost selves.

No one seeks a friend who is always in crisis,

It takes incredible courage to tell our friends they are right, they are loved, they are seen, they are good, they are safe, and they are strong. It takes courage because it can be scary to shine a spotlight on others if we feel something lacking in our own lives

In the second stage, CHAOS, the façade has faded and we see more clearly the person’s imperfections

The most successful and happy people are, in fact, the givers.

We can also expand communication by sharing what we need from each other, discussing new subjects, learning how to ask questions and listen well, being curious about each other’s pasts, and sometimes engaging in expansive topics far bigger than our circumstances and updates, like politics, spirituality, dreams, or ideas.

Our sense of disconnection is far more cultural than it is circumstantial, more widespread than it is personal.

MIND-OPENERS expand your horizons and introduce you to new ideas, opportunities, cultures, and people.

ROUTINE: Sometimes the best thing we can do is invite someone to do the things with us that seem small