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If I am clenched, enraged or chaotic I cannot connect.
The Soul Work of Losing Control
If a person is not in touch with his emotional self, he cannot meet emotional needs of others.
Patti Henry • The Emotionally Unavailable Man
Avoidance always has its reasons. The organism is trying to protect itself, ensure its well-being, and preserve self-esteem—but in the wrong way. Since emotions, negative and positive, express our assessment of the significance of different aspects of reality for ourselves, when we bury feelings and emotion we also bury ourselves. This is what it
... See moreNathaniel Branden • Honoring the Self: The Pyschology of Confidence and Respect
... See moreThe refusal to feel takes a heavy toll. Not only is there an impoverishment of our emotional and sensory life, flowers are dimmer and less fragrant, our loves less ecstaticâ but this psychic numbing also impedes our capacity to process and respond to information. The energy expended in pushing down despair is diverted from more creative uses,
It is hard to be with another’s pain if we cannot be with our own.
The Invitation, Oriah