We strongly suggest that you not ask this of your father or a guy friend. Dads love their little girls no matter what, and know that a word about weight or appearance can create real emotional turmoil. Younger guys will usually just clam up if a girl asks about it, because it’s just too uncomfortable to talk about. They also don’t want to hurt her

patterns of relating to guys, but don’t put your own brain into neutral while you do it.

premarital sex, the minute they get it they start to doubt whether the girl can be trusted. And the introduction of that doubt, in turn, undermines the relationship.

versus truth. Are they being nice, or mean? It’s a minefield we’re navigating.”

But every guy can make a choice—to dwell on the images and thoughts, or to do the work necessary to get rid of them.

The only real difference was that guys who attended religious services every week were slightly less likely to do this—but

Beverly Crusher had just discovered what many of us never grasp—that most guys are hiding a deep inner uncertainty. Even the most confident-seeming guy

we’ve come to think that love should be unconditional, but respect must be earned. Instead, what men need is unconditional respect—to be respected for who they are,

As your eyes are opened on these issues, you may actually appreciate certain restrictions—like school dress codes or parental “hassles” over clothes—that may have annoyed you before. Many of us used to think of “modesty” standards as being old-fashioned rules designed to perhaps protect us, but certainly to spoil our fun—when now you know they are