helped a lot of people, and with the publication of this

feelings are bad, so you try to make them go away. You eat or drink or snort or swallow…something. You find a messiah, a person, a theory or a system to follow, as blindly as possible. You sleep a lot, or not at all. You change jobs, spouses, cities, wardrobes, cars or religions.

But having ADHD can also be very stimulating. It can be fun. I mean it. Imagine a stone skipping across the surface of a lake, and now imagine being that stone! You can’t seem to get below the surface of the water, but what you’re doing feels close to flying, and somehow that heightened sensation feels more normal than risky. You may not know how t

If you can’t make yourself shower, wash your face. If you take prescription medication, keep taking it. Process, process, process, in whatever way works for you. Talk aloud to yourself, write in your journal, get it out on paper some other way, yell, sing, swear. No one needs to hear you doing this. If you have something to say to someone, you can

But you can also read this section if you’re in the middle of a big storm, or feel one coming on:

What’s the Next Step? Sometimes that’s the only question you need to ask yourself. That means you can forget about the Big Picture, the future, the dire implications, the regrets, the looming deadline. Really. This is your (temporary) pass. What’s the next step? Do that.

ADHD isn’t your identity. It’s something you manage, support and balance. ADHD can be managed. I would add that it can not only be managed, but also leveraged. So, more than an obstacle to be overcome, ADHD can be an advantage if you see it for what it is.

David Rock’s Results Coaching System (www.resultscoaches.com).

Self-Care 101 See your practitioner, psychotherapist, MD, massage therapist, workout buddy, whomever. Find the number. Make the call. Find that pod of support. Reach out to ADHD buddies, any and all. Find the number, make the call. Simplify everything. Cut down on commitments. Try to do some percentage of what you usually do, but don’t be too hard