Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live

Every Square Three hero’s saga will include tasks you really, really don’t want to do. Obviously, I don’t want you to head away from your North Star and fill your whole life with hated tasks, but to reach your dreams, you’ll probably have to jump several unpleasant social hoops.

I hate these people. I hate their cocktail parties. I hate their Rolodex relationships.

Trying to re-create the recent past after a catalytic event is the equivalent of looking for the water during a dive. The way to create dynamics that will pull you into the right position is to begin paying very close attention to your internal compasses.

After the first few times, the healing effect of telling your story will already have taken place, and you’ll feel less emotional energy with each conversation. That’s the signal that it’s time to move on.

If someone you deeply love wounded you emotionally, you may spend years in futile efforts to convince that person to change, to see how valuable you are, to treat you as you deserve to be treated. When these attempts fail (because they usually do), you’ll feel magnetized toward romantic partners, friends, and sometimes even employers who are simila

I had reached the point where I absolutely could not go back into academic life. My body, my brain, and my heart all shut down every time I even considered it. Oh, the anxiety that flooded me as our debts mounted! Oh, the awkward explanations to relatives and friends! I called myself crazy a million times over, but I was finally tuned in to my true

Step 3: Get to the Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing but the Truth

6. Hang with Your Tribe Spend as much time as possible with people who support your true self. Spend as little time as possible with those who don’t.

replace your hypercritical, limiting, lying Everybody with an Everybody who sees you as you really are.