I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.

Seldom does this search take the form of asking the really important question: What can I make of myself that would make me worthy to give and receive such love? We want to bask in the warmth of devotion that overlooks, even indulges, our failings. Apart from our mothers, this pleasure can be a little hard to find—or to maintain over time. What I

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Because if you don’t meet your own soul before you meet another person’s, you’ll build a home in theirs and forget you ever had your own. You’ll confuse being wanted with being known . And that, more than loneliness, is the thing that will hollow you out.