Would a reasonable person (in this case, your partner, spouse, babysitter, caregivers, parents, and in-laws) under similar circumstances do as I’ve done? What is the community standard, and do we want to adopt this standard within our own home? What’s the harm for doing, or not doing, it this way? What is our “why”?

we have to ditch the maternal gatekeeping control (e.g., It’s my way or move out!) and create way more context (e.g., Here’s how it’s done from start to finish—and why we’ve agreed to do it this way).

ESTABLISH YOUR VALUES AND STANDARDS

Conversely, the men with wives who are presently pursuing their unique skills, talents, and passions beyond parenting immediately identify the focus of their partner’s Unicorn Space as the source of the great pride they feel—every single time.

RULE #2: RECLAIM YOUR RIGHT TO BE INTERESTING

Cards in the Magic suit include moments of meaningful connection and relationship building.

are heavy-lifting cards that require a generous hand from your partner or spouse.

Cards in the Caregiving suit

plan for the week ahead. The person who holds the “calendar keeper” card will lead this point of the discussion by referencing any upcoming events on the schedule that may impact specific cards. For example, a birthday party, a school transition, a visit from extended family, or packing for an upcoming weekend getaway will be brought to the