Everything you want is on the other side of “should.”

Do I really believe I am worthy of it? Do I really trust that I would be able to handle it? Do I really believe it is possible for me? What insecurities do I currently have surrounding this? What limiting beliefs are holding me back?

As I started analyzing the stories and looking for re-occurring themes, I realized that the patterns generally fell into one of two columns; for simplicity’s sake, I first labeled these Do and Don’t. The Do column was brimming with words like worthiness, rest, play, trust, faith, intuition, hope, authenticity, love, belonging, joy, gratitude, and c

• Spending all of your time doing stuff that you don't like because you think more money or more prestige down the road will be worth it only guarantees that you spend all of your time doing things that you don't like.


• Being good at what you are supposed to do is overrated.


• There is a 1:1 correlation b

What’s on our “supposed to” list? Who says? Why?

Shoulds can masquerade as high standards or lofty goals, but they are not the same. Goals direct us from the inside, but shoulds are paralyzing judgments from the outside. Goals feel like authentic dreams while shoulds feel like oppressive obligations. Shoulds set up a false dichotomy between either meeting an ideal or being a failure, between perf