You will find your expansion practice also features growing pains. These negative feelings come in two forms: 1) uncomfortable fight-or-flight sensations like a racing heart rate, sweaty palms, or nervous stomach, and 2) painful emotions like anxiety, frustration, and sadness. Both of these types of feelings are the monkey mind calling you to

Welcoming Breath and Ask for More, in conjunction with Thank the Monkey and Worry Time.

Expansive Mind-set: I know I will do some things well and other things poorly, and neither reflects my worth as a person (unconditional self-acceptance).

Expansive Mind-set: It is more important to practice flexibility and learn to cope when things do not go as planned.

Expansive Mind-set: It is more important to live life fully in the present moment than to spend time predicting what might go wrong in the future.

As long as I am certain, as long as I am perfect, and as long as others are okay I will be safe, able to relax, and happy.

No matter how smart you are, no matter how crystal clear your vision, everything is distorted when viewed through the lens of fear.

This is why I like to think of negative feelings as necessary feelings.

Perhaps you’ve been aware that you are doing too much and tried to set limits with others. If they seem disappointed, do you feel guilty or selfish for your assertiveness? If others get upset with you, do you think it’s your fault that they feel this way? Even when others are upset about something you had nothing to do with, with an