Which of my strongest beliefs are formed on second-hand information vs. first-hand experience?

If I could not compare myself to anyone else, how would I define a good life?

Whose views do I criticize that I would actually agree with if I lived in their shoes?

Who do I envy that is actually less happy than I am?

Looking back, am I any good at... See more

Derek also offered a framing I loved: instead of asking “Is this idea true?”, ask “What action does this idea create?” If a belief drains your energy or keeps you stuck, toss it. If it moves you toward growth, connection, or creative output, follow it.

Am I chasing external validation? Why do I want this outcome? How will this accomplishment make me feel? Am I acting entitled to this outcome or accomplishment? Am I trying to control the narrative here? Do I think I’m the smartest person in the room? Are my feelings and actions driven by ego?