Dissolve the Problem

Whenever someone comes to me with a pesky issue from their lives, a consistent pattern that always comes up is that they have been talking to themselves about the problem. They have talked themselves into the problem and have convinced themselves about the seriousness of the issue!

acknowledge that your problems are there but let them be for a moment. Instead, work on changing the person whom you are on the inside.

Our problems are external circumstances that are separate from who we really are.

Whenever you find worries or fears creeping into your consciousness, gently let them go without engaging them.

When we work very hard to eradicate an issue from our lives, we are actually feeding more energy into the situation and perpetuating it. As such, there is a very fine line between solving (removing) a problem and solidifying a problem.

When we have grappled with a problem for so long, we become so intimately attached to it in a perverse way. It becomes difficult to imagine life all of a sudden without the problem. This can be corrected by cultivating the awareness that we exist independently of all the conditions in our lives.

talking about our problems gives us a sense of relief and a temporary “high.” Some people say that talking about their problems makes them feel good since they have an opportunity to vent.

Going back to the coin analogy, it means dropping the coin and not even picking it up in the first place. What you want to do is to put that coin away and keep it out of sight. Keep it in a drawer and don’t look at it unless absolutely necessary. Do not talk about it. Do not face the negative consequences of the problem unless you absolutely need t

If you are serious about dropping the issue from your life permanently, then you should do so without placing any more attention on the issue itself.