For most people, loneliness doesn't stem from a lack of friends. It comes from not feeling connected to the friends you already have, while "peering in" on their lives via social media. (You can read more about this in the ancient text Big Friendship.) This problem is not fixable if you expect community to just happen naturally . It is fixable if... See more

Following are ten foolproof ways to nurture your community that have served me.

1. be present and listen


2. take initiative and be accountable


3. eat together: communal dinner with questions prepped ahead of time


4. give gifts 


5. inspire fun, play, and adventure


6. design spaces for belonging: “Designing intentional spaces is at the root of belonging. It’s the physical

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Everywhere we go these days, there is talk about community - the developer SaaS tool, the soap brand, and virtually every product I interact with now prominently bears a Community link on their homepage. Personally, I don’t need more Slack groups or things to which I belong. What I want is deeper relationships with specific people where I can be... See more