People who are stuck often ask themselves, What am I supposed to do next? That question often comes from a place of paying attention to your thoughts, not your body. You’re too busy being slammed by your feelings to read what they’re telling you.

But how do you pay attention to your body, how do you parse your feelings, how do you reach that sense... See more

Prompts I’ve found helpful recently:

• Nobody must ever know that I [thought / said / did / desired] . . . [x].


• What important moment(s) explain where I am that I would never share (that I would never put on my bio/CV)? What am I hiding and why?


• If I truly and deeply loved myself, would I . . . do this / keep myself from doing this / let this be done

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You need to be in a space of psychological safety, where your mind has enough capacity that it can pull off full contact with the aversive mental material, such that you can fully, lovingly experience the original pain/embarrassment/heartache/rage, and thus bring it into the present and own it as part of your life story, rather than keeping it in... See more